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"The biggest difference between money and time: You always know how much money you have, but you never know how much time you have." ~R. Mangal Chaubey
We live our lives as though they'll never end. From one day to the next we live in autopilot mode, taking everything (and everyone) for granted. If you feel lost, stranded, stuck, or simply aimless, the deathbed meditation can help jolt you back to life: buff.ly/3LybgP6
"Trauma comes back as a reaction, not a memory." ~Bessel Van Der Kolk
"You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better." ~Anne Lamott
The abuse behind my happy family pictures (and why we should talk about it): buff.ly/36TqXy6
"'But it made you stronger.' I was a child. I didn't need to be stronger. I needed to be safe." ~Stacy Kaiser
“You can’t calm the storm, so stop trying. What you can do is calm yourself. The storm will pass.” ~Timber Hawkeye
19 techniques to calm a highly sensitive nervous system buff.ly/3iLUFef
"People talk about caterpillars becoming butterflies as though they just go into a cocoon, slap on wings, and are good to go. Caterpillars have to dissolve into a disgusting pile of goo to become butterflies. So if you’re a mess wrapped up in blankets right now, keep going."
Stuff doesn't make us happy. Status doesn't bring us love. Accomplishments aren't the key to joy. We can feel all those things right now, without having to change anything in our lives. Here's how.
4 simple exercises to fill you with joy, love, and light: buff.ly/3606yL4
"When all you know is fight or flight, red flags and butterflies all feel the same." ~Cindy Cherie
Many of us were brought up to believe that family is family, and you never walk away. Sometimes you can heal a relationship, sometimes you can't, and there's no shame in that. If you're at your wit's end and considering estrangement, this may help. buff.ly/2XP7gmz
"You are here to live. Not to earn, not to stress, not to prove, not even to please. Just to live." ~Natasha Helwig
Your feelings & needs are valid & you know what's best for you. But you might not trust yourself if you're used to being dismissed & invalidated. Don't doubt yourself because other people treated you like you don't matter. You do.
How to trust yourself: buff.ly/3iDRtlK
"I love that feeling when you talk stuff out with someone and you both become aware that neither of you were wrong. You just saw the scenario differently. Talking really should be about seeing things from their perspective, rather than the need to be right." ~Oghosa Ovienrioba
Many of us think we need to get lots done, and fast. But moving slowly doesn't mean we're not doing good enough; it just means we're making time for all the things that matter to us.
How I’m honoring my values even though I have conflicting priorities buff.ly/3t0SFEX
If standing up for yourself burns a bridge, I have matches. We ride at dawn.
It's tempting to give up when things get hard, but the impossible becomes possible when you fuel the fire in your belly with a motivating reason.
“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” ~Nietzsche
How to motivate yourself to keep going: buff.ly/2vof83l
"It's hard to turn the page when you know someone won't be in the next chapter, but the story must go on." ~Thomas Wilder
“Stop wanting more, be grateful for today. Live in the moment. Cherish your life and the time you have in this world." ~Mercy Torres
Why we need to stop chasing success and start enjoying the little things in life: buff.ly/2wA4OG5
Don't let anyone's ignorance, hate, drama, or negativity stop you from being the best person you can be.
If you're stressing yourself out, feeling pressure to find your purpose, call off the search. It's much easier than you think to live a meaningful life.
Why you should stop looking for your purpose and what to do instead: buff.ly/3kCkXRa
"I cannot express this enough, you have no idea what other people carry with them every day. You have no idea what someone’s life is like. Don’t create more pain and stress to others. Be kind. Be genuine." ~Abby Masoner
“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority.” ~Mandy Hale
How to take your life back from people who ask for too much: buff.ly/2nuQniw
Things I refuse to do anymore:
1. Explain myself to someone outside my inner circle.
2. Bend my truth to make someone else comfortable.
3. Apologize for setting a boundary.
~Rebecca Ray
“Being around people (especially friends) who are unhappy can be unsettling, but please know that we don’t need you to fix us or even cheer us up. We just want someone to hold our hand now and then."
What not to say to someone going through a breakup: buff.ly/2CancVp
New book, The Art of Unconditional Self-Love, by Tiny Buddha contributor Rita Loyd teaches self-love in such a beautiful, unique way using healing art images to illustrate each point. Features 25 of Rita’s latest paintings. Learn more here: buff.ly/3l2g9oz
"It took me a long time to realize I was wasting energy on the wrong people. The right people wont make you chase them. They’ll just show up."
"You can’t fix what happened, but you can sit with someone, side by side, so they don’t feel quite so alone... It’s the one gift that can make a difference." ~Linda Carroll
How to speak to someone about an unspeakable loss: buff.ly/2AqdLAN
"Just a reminder that not every day 'has to count.' Some days are just about making it to the next one. That counts too."
"I have learned that to be sincerely kind and compassionate, we must create strong and clear boundaries for ourselves. Otherwise, being 'nice' will ultimately lead to resentment."
“Nice” isn’t a compliment - letting go of the need to please: buff.ly/2p12EsJ
"Maybe your life purpose isn't supposed to be a thrill-seeking narrative. What if you're meant to be the sunshine to someone's stormy day? Or the voice of clarity to a frantic mind? You don't have to be a superhero to save the world."⠀
“Ships don’t sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don’t let what’s happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.” ~Unknown
How to react calmly in stressful or frustrating situations buff.ly/2Isj7O9
“Don’t waste your time and energy trying to convince people to value you. If you have to fight for their attention and respect, it’s time to move on.” ~Lori Deschene
Every day away from my abuser is a step toward reclaiming myself: buff.ly/38jC6g9
When other people treat you poorly, keep being you. Don't ever let someone else's bitterness change the person you are.
"What if you didn’t have to do anything or prove anything to be worthy of your own love? What if you deserved your own unconditional love, just like you give to your pets or your children?" ~Malia Bradshaw
How to stop measuring your worth in achievements buff.ly/3yuQhtm
Sometimes it takes losing what you're settling for to remind you of what you truly deserve.
It’s frustrating when you know you need to let go of the past, but you can't seem to do it. It’s frustrating when you try really hard, but can't move on from something that's not good for you. This simple 2-step approach may help you let go and find peace. buff.ly/2Ixwi0t
"Know yourself well enough to avoid the people, places, and things that take you back to the habits you worked so hard to break." ~Dr. Thema Bryant
“Don’t waste your time and energy trying to convince people to value you. If you have to fight for their attention and respect, it’s time to move on.” ~Lori Deschane
Every day away from my abuser is a step toward reclaiming myself: buff.ly/38jC6g9
We don't have to be alike to be friends. We just have to care about each other.
There are many wonderful, kind people out there, but that doesn’t make them right for you. Just because you love them that doesn’t mean you can be happy with them. Ask yourself these five questions to know if your relationship has the potential to last. buff.ly/38c3ugd
"May we stop seeing ourselves through the eyes of people who never saw us." ~Shane Steele
When we see someone struggling, we want to fix it for them, but sometimes we unintentionally add fuel to the fire. Here are 8 things not to say to someone who deals with anxiety, and what actually helps. buff.ly/2FznI3J
"Sometimes when someone is unhappy with themselves they create a problem with everything and everyone around them." ~Shane Steele
Self-care isn't just baths and massages and treating yo-self. Sometimes you have to make hard choices and big life changes. It's not always easy, but prioritizing your needs and happiness can be the best thing you ever do for yourself. buff.ly/3smsjg4
Normalize telling your friends you love them. Tell them a lot. Make it weird.
You have to know you're worthy to attract a healthy relationship. You have to know you deserve love and respect. Do the work to heal your wounds. It's the only way to break unhealthy relationship patterns.
If you're tired of toxic relationships: buff.ly/2p4FBgt
"Surround yourself with people that reflect who you want to be and how you want to feel. Energy is contagious." ~Rachel Wolchin
"You don’t have to be positive all the time. It’s perfectly okay to feel sad, angry, annoyed, frustrated, scared, or anxious. Having feelings doesn’t make you a ‘negative person.’ It makes you human." ~Lori Deschene
Why "Be Positive" Isn't Great Advice: buff.ly/2HBVKkk
"Being loved is the minimum. Make sure you are also being respected, prioritized, supported, desired, and understood."
We all have a finite number of years, and we can never know which day will be our last. Now is the time to live the life you want to live and be the person you want to be.
5 questions I ask myself nightly since my father's sudden death: buff.ly/3vYQ7sN
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