YOU ARE LOVED! Absent of any conditions, circumstances, or events that have convinced you to think otherwise you have ALWAYS been deserving of companionship, fellowship, support and understanding. Again, YOU ARE LOVED! YOU ARE WANTED! YOUR EXISTENCE IS INTENTIONAL!
Learning to cope or deal with negative situations as a means of survival DOES NOT MEAN that you should experience those situations when you no longer have to.
Arguing with others to prove a point goes against your desire to maintain your peace & the preservation of your well-being. Be content with being assured that what you feel & think doesn't always require agreement or validation. We are all opinionated-beings trying to fit in.
Those who exhibit avoidant & dismissive attachment styles often crave attachment to others yet may fear deep connections due to prior experiences of abandonment, invalidation of emotions, and rejection. Connectivity is desired yet either can't be trusted or feel it is undeserved.