Cindy Wang Brandt
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We talk about bodily autonomy often to refer to consenting to people touching our bodies. But body autonomy also means we choose the places we go with our bodies, who we put our bodies in proximity with, and choosing the time we do the above.
I want us to raise girls who ask for things and boys who can handle “no” to things.
If you’re parenting after this purity culture nonsense, check out my conference on this topic:
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"I think the grief of what I've endured (religious trauma) and the gratitude for who I have become because of it...containing both feels too much for me sometimes." @cindywangbrandt
"I've thought about giving back ($ raised from missions) kind of like a refund" 😂@whereiscoreynoww
Editing a podcast episode with Corey, whom I adore <3
Thank you so much for these kind, affirming words. I feel seen! twitter.com/splatt20/statu…
As an #Enneagram8 I just want to say:
I am SO TIRED of people thinking I am angry when I am not.
And I wish people knew my feelings can get hurt even though I AM strong.
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Retweeted by Cindy Wang Brandt “Children propel us into fighting for a better future because we belong to one another.” @cindywangbrandt
// this is remarkable Progressive Christian resource for parents !
Retweeted by Cindy Wang Brandt “Remember, when we are gay, we are not gay full time.” ~ @francescavallo on representation of gay characters in books and media.
We consent to being with our partners everyday. As we grow, we can choose to choose each other, or we can choose otherwise. There’s not guarantees of ever after, not when two people’s agencies are honored. twitter.com/lew_jeffrey/st…
Just finished episode 6 of Bridgerton (so no spoilers for the ending!) and whew Edwina 🔥🔥🔥
Mad respect.
Evangelicals prey on the vulnerabilities of teens/adolescents to evangelize them. Teach them about “love bombing” and show them the 🚩🚩twitter.com/thepursuinglif…MhZ
The thing is, you never hear “good evangelicals” be this honest. I would appreciate you could just say, “it costs too much for me to leave” (I get it, the cost is high) “so I’m just gonna stay, do my best to be good, own my complicity, know I can’t change it.” twitter.com/cindywangbrand…
This is not to say you can’t do good or be a good person inside of it. I think you can, but you ought to own your complicity in the evils of the system, disabuse the notion you can reform it, and decide if you’re ok with that.
I guess I preach to myself. I preach what I need to hear. I preach what I believe the kids need us to say with them and for them.
But rest assured I am not as sanctimonious as I may come across, and that I prioritize my own needs over my kids often and yes, I behave hypocritically, often.
I don't live what I preach.
Sometimes I get heat in parenting spaces b/c I do err on the side of the child's needs over the parents. And that's just consistent with my values that we advocate more loudly for the ones with less power.
You cannot change evangelicalism (meaningfully) from the inside
Holy crap! My friend (former evangelical) just said she used to hope she would get raped just so she could have sex without feeling the shame of getting sex for herself.
And I'm like, OMG I think I did too. �#PurityCulturee
Last couple of days to register for my conference--starts next Monday!
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Is glory stored in the hands and you LIFT it up to God, is that it?
I mean I tried singing songs about giving God the glory on repeat refrains, is that it?
Listening to my own podcast on 1.5 speed and wow I sound a lot smarter
I just want to know exactly the mechanics of what it looks like to “give God the glory?”
I always knew that’s what I had to do but I never really quite figured out how 🤷🏻♀️
@cindywangbrandt No,but I was told not to say “holy” for these same reason. So no “holy cow” for me.
Retweeted by Cindy Wang Brandt I talk often about treating kids with the human dignity we give adults and I think the reverse should also be true.
Give adults the dignity of play, naps, tender care and dependence.
We all have human needs regardless of age.
CAN’T MORE THAN ONE THING BE GREEN twitter.com/momnixon/statu…
The day that I worried about this should’ve been the first day I walked away from all of it.
Was anyone else told not to say the word “awesome” so flippantly because that should be a word that’s reserved to describe God?
Religious trauma is feeling triggered by moments of transcendence because of years of chasing the high of experiencing God in worship or devotions and being betrayed by that system.
For a long time I wanted nothing to do with feeling spiritual.
Or how about… “you can ask questions, as long as those questions don’t lead to you abandoning your faith” twitter.com/cindywangbrand…
Retweeted by Cindy Wang Brandt Evangelical orthodoxy boundaries are not a slope, it’s a steep cliff.
You can have fun…up to a point and after that it’s deviant.
You can think critically…to a point, after that you’re a heretic.
They warn you about the slippery slope but in practice it’s a drop off.
From where else does blood and water pour out, and yet also create new life? Happy Resurrection, friends.
Retweeted by Cindy Wang Brandt @cindywangbrandt I totally get this. I made a meal for a coworker whose parent is in the hospital, and she was blown away, and I heard myself say, "Its really not a big deal this is normal in my old church world."
Retweeted by Cindy Wang Brandt Skills include: people-pleasing, baking, focusing on everyone’s needs but my own #exvangelical twitter.com/cindywangbrand…
Retweeted by Cindy Wang Brandt Now ask me if I know my own desires and how to live into it without guilt/shame/self doubt.
I was nice to someone and they were really touched and I was like, "oh it's nothing, I grew up evangelical I know how to be really nice."
Just a few more hours until early bird prices end for my conference. See you all soon!!
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I #amwriting about how we can re-engage play after religious trauma:
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